Valentine’s Day is all about telling your significant other how much he/she means to you. And then for all the single people it’s about telling your friends how much they mean to you.
But this Valentine’s Day I’m taking a different approach.
I want to tell some unsuspecting people how much they’re loved. Like the woman at Trinity Cafe.
I love the person that works at Trinity Cafe from 8pm to midnight every night. She knows my name, laughs at my stupid jokes, and genuinely takes pride in her job. Every night I learn bits and pieces about who she is, bits and pieces that remind me she is not just a woman who stands at the cashier every night. This woman has the same Birthday as me, she cracks her phone all the time and loves to tell me how clumsy she is, has a cat and a sister and isn’t much older than I am. She didn’t attend college, but feels like she is right now because she sees the “hustle and bustle of Duke students every day”. Every night she tells me she loves my smile. She predicts my order, and always tries to make the best combinations of food options that fit within my $9 budget.
But there’s another reason why I love this woman. A few weeks ago, I went to Trinity Cafe just like any other night. I had just run ten miles, and I was so hungry. I smiled at the woman, she smiled back like usual, and she asked me what I wanted. I told her, “A cinnamon scone and a milk, please. I’m so hungry.” I got back to my dorm, opened my bag to eat my scone, and realized there were two inside the bag. This woman heard that I was hungry, thought I deserved two scones, and selflessly gave me a second one even though I only bought one. The next night, I stopped by the Cafe and whispered to her, “Hey… Did you…?” And she smiled her huge smile and nodded her head.
That, my friends, is love. She didn’t have to do that. But she recognized our connection. She valued me. This woman, who goes unnoticed much of the time, wanted to give me, a privileged college student, an extra scone. And I love her for it.
Valentine’s Day is a day to recognize all those people you bump into while you’re going through life’s daily motions. Valentine’s Day is a day to recognize that all people deserve love, that all people want love, and that all people can give and receive love. So, today, spread that love, especially to that person who may not know just how much she/he means to you.
Happy Valentine’s Day, Woman At Trinity Cafe. You are loved.